My confidante
WEEKEND SEX A CubaNews translation by
Sue Greene. I am a university student, I am 22 years old and in my class, sometimes, they couple-up in order to have a good weekend, either in the countryside or in other places; then on Monday, if I see you, I do not remember. I do not know if I have a peasant upbringing or what, but I do not find this behavior good. And you? Valentina. Hello Muchacha: Sometimes, the same girls and boys who participate in that "weekend sex", as I have heard this modality called, are not very convinced of the validity of this experience, however, they do it perhaps out of curiosity, to see what happens, for fun and even "for nothing." I share with you the rejection that you feel for such "adventures" which can be very costly, since sometimes one must be mortified for being intimate with someone who they do not like or with whom not even any chemistry flows. As a side matter, STDs are always lurking for whoever "slips up" and is not adequately protected with a condom. Among them is HIV, and there are not just a few young people who have related becoming infected during "crazy" actions, in order to pass the time. On this it is not possible even to blink. But I am not going to fall into prohibitions or medieval lashings. Sexual relations are important, I would say necessary. Increasingly, investigations show that sex is a source of health and spiritual and emotional enrichment. But are we then going to obviate the need that a human being has for tenderness, understanding, respect, reciprocity, love? Are we going to entrust our body, sharing intimacy (something so private) with someone who we do not properly know, who can bear certain defects, usually intolerable, like machismo, egoism, greed, discourtesy? Life has shown adolescents and young people that a sexual relationship is not the ultimate end of their existence. That it does not have much value in a detached manner. It is essentially part of an integrated whole of basic elements such as love, communication, understanding oneself and supporting oneself. Whenever I ask: Can there be a magnificent intimate relationship without real love, people tell me no, you have the age that you have. This is information to consider. It is true that one can engage in sexual intercourse in a more or less pleasant form, sex without love, but when the activity is finished, as Lucas would say, the couple separates; and they can continue talking about music or books; however, not remaining closely embraced, prolonging the tenderness and magical beauty of those who feel enjoyment being very close to each other, skin on skin, nothing more. There are young people of both sexes who have the belief that a good or bad relationship of a couple is decided in bed. They argue that if that works well, everything else is secure, and the courtship or marriage will proceed with wind in its sails. I hold the opposite view: I believe that if everything else is going well, then intimate relationships can be tremendous. If not, frankly, I have many doubts. Valentina, do not reject this variant because of prejudice or a reactionary mentality. It is that day that we begin to obviate that we are thinking and "sentient" beings -to think and to feel is something indissolubly united- we begin to descend down the animal scale... to stop where?
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